I was happy to see “Rowdy” Ronda Rousey STOMP THE HELL OUT OF Bethe “Pit Bull” Correia in mere seconds, especially after the thoughtless shit she said in her trash talking attempts leading up to the fight.
Look, I get that it’s the UFC and MMA, that adrenaline is flowing, and that almost anything is fair game for taunting your opponent and promoting a fight. This is not a sport for thin skinned pussies, male or female and, beyond showing up with the physical power and technical skill, you also need to get into your opponent’s head if you want to win. But if there is a line that can be crossed, then Correia definitely crossed it.
Here’s the transcript of what she said from Jesse Holland at MMA Mania:
“I want to knock her out, show to everyone that she is a lie. She wants to stand up with me, let’s see. I want to humiliate her and show the word she has no MMA. She is focused on movies, books. I am much stronger, I come from a developing country, where people are struggling to survive, not to starve. It is very different from her life of reality. Under pressure, she is proving weak. When her mom put pressure on her, she ran away from home. When she lost, it was because of drugs. That’s not a superhero. She is not mentally healthy, she needs to take care of herself. She is winning, so everybody is around her cheering her up, but when she realizes she is not everything that she believes she is, I don’t know what might happen. I hope she does not kill herself later on (laughs).”
Correia was obviously referencing the personal demons Rousey talks about in her recently released book My Fight, Your Fight and none of her comments were a big deal, until that last sentence.
Ronda Rousey’s dad committed suicide when she was 8 years old after a severe back injury left him paralyzed and a blood disorder prevented him from healing properly. After hearing Bethe Correia’s comments, she issued the following tweet:
Now, according to Correia, she didn’t know that Rousey’s dad had killed himself, but that’s highly unlikely given that everything else she referenced in her comments was from the book and articles, which also talked about her dad’s death.
But so fucking what if she didn’t know! Even if the UFC champion didn’t have the deep, personal tragedy of losing her dad in her past, suicide is no fucking joke!
According to data collected by The World Health Organization, nearly 1 million people die from suicide every year and there are many more who attempt, shattering families who are left confused and devastated by inconsolable feelings of loss, grief, and regret.
Suicide is secretly on the mind of more people than you realize; people you look up to and admire, people who seem to have it all and who you would never imagine are burning inside and suffering in a secret hell, and many more people you don’t even know exist; someone’s father or mother, someone’s son or daughter; and it may even be on YOUR mind right now.
I don’t know if its because we lost some big names, like Robin Williams, recently or if I’m just noticing it more because my younger brother Zach killed himself earlier this year, but it seems like a lot more people are talking openly about suicide lately — people are coming out of the closet about friends and family attempting or succeeding, about attempting it themselves and failing in the past or, at the very least, about thinking suicidal thoughts.
Just recently, I read an email I got from Tim Ferris about it, I had a call with a guy from one of my mastermind groups about it, I saw a veteran post about it in a Facebook group, and I even completed a training program with a mentor who had failed at several attempts in his past before finally waking up from despair and dedicating his life to serving others.
Are these people and conversations just showing up in my life because of my family’s tragedy? You know, like when you buy a new car and, suddenly, you see that car everywhere? Or has there just been a surge in suicidal thoughts and attempts in the face of the increasingly insane world we seem to be living in?
Either way, I think it’s good that people are talking about it openly and publicly because it NEEDS to be talked about openly and publicly — people need to know that they’re not alone in the darkness; that the struggles they’re facing and the thoughts they’re having aren’t unique to them; that someone they know and love has been down that road too; that someone who loves them is really listening and really cares about what they’re feeling; and that there IS another path to take and that they CAN take that other path with love, encouragement, and ongoing support.
AND something needs to be done — by all of us — to make other options available, both for the most desperate who are at their breaking point already and for individuals and families upstream so that more people never reach their breaking point or even consider suicide as a possibility in the first place.
I’ve contemplated suicide many many times in my life and so have my parents — I know because we’ve talked about it openly, especially since losing my brother. I’ve imagined the entire process from start to finish and through every possible scenario. I’ve imagined what the world would be like after and what it would do to the people I love. In fact, there have been weeks and months when it’s been on my mind every day and one could argue that my bouts with drug addiction and other self destructive patterns or behavior were slow attempts to take my own life.
But fortunately for me, I eventually created something bigger in my life and in my future to live into; not by accident, but by choice and by design, that has prevented me and will keep me from EVER killing myself.
Knowing that without a future that is bigger than oneself to live into, there is nothing to live for, over the past 20 years I immersed myself in “mind-body training” and personal development, which has given me access to a powerful set of beliefs, tools, and strategies that I consistently use to transform my state of mind and experience of life again and again and again and in the face of whatever challenges show up.
But so many, like my brother, don’t see a future for themselves worth living into because they haven’t been taught how to claim their personal power and responsibility (self as cause) for creating one — they have limiting beliefs and no access to the tools and strategies they need to transform their state of mind, the condition of their body, the quality of their relationships, the circumstances of their career or finances, or how they feel about these things, and perhaps don’t even know that they can transform what these things mean and therefore their results and experience in life.
They haven’t discussed it openly, with their parents, with their children, with their friends, or with anyone else who can and is willing to help and they believe that their thoughts of guilt and regret, fear and worry, are REAL, rather than just a story they made up about what happened in life that only appears to be real for the moment.
And it is for that reason that, after my brother died, I made a decision that his death would be for something and not for nothing; that, in honor of his life and my love for him, I would be an example of what’s possible, take a stand for the desperate, and BE a solution.
It’s what finally drove me to follow through on a goal I set nearly 20 years ago to become a Firewalking Instructor — because the experience of doing something as “impossible” as a walking on a bed of fiery hot coals with my bare feet when I was just a teenager was a major turning point for me that absolutely helped save my life from the hopelessness and despair that comes from thinking you have a life of limited possibilities — and I am committed to using Firewalking and any and every other effective resource, tool, strategy, and experience I can to help others…
- Claim self as cause in life…their are no victims, only volunteers!
- Break through fear…courage is the willingness and power to act in spite of it!
- Blast apart what’s in one’s way…problems are a sign of life and an opportunity to grow!
- Clear a space inside…a blank canvas on which to paint life as a masterpiece!
- And create a future and a life worth living…that is bigger than than oneself and a legacy for others!
- With the love and support of one’s closest family members…present, available, and really listening!
I’m specifically committed helping men who are husbands and fathers and women who are wives and mothers learn how to practice and demonstrate True Forgiveness and Real Commitment, become great listeners, leaders, and role models for each other and their children and to CONNECT more completely and create deeper BONDS of trust and mutual respect with each other than they ever thought possible.
Because I believe that empowering husbands and fathers, wives and mothers, to be their VERY BEST AND HIGHEST SELF (physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, financially, spiritually), to BE FULLY PRESENT in each other’s lives; and by empowering them to BE FULLY PRESENT AND AVAILABLE and, in doing so, to FULLY EXPRESS THAT BEST AND HIGHEST SELF to each other, will heal and help solve a major cause of the suicide problem UPSTREAM.
Too many families are LIVING INSIDE A WAR ZONE AT HOME and SUFFERING THROUGH A SECRET HELL in their relationships with each other. These families, the individuals within them, need access to the psychological resources, physical challenges, and emotional intelligence they need to THRIVE with each other.
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Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.Phil Donahue